A private, remote program that blends counseling, coaching and energy work to find the real cause of the toxic dance — not the surface of it. Thirty years of doing this with couples who had already tried everything else.
Licensed psychotherapist & Sufi master teacher · Married to Maria for three decades
It's a toxic dance you're both longing to stop and don't know how. Arguing, miscommunicating, walking on eggshells — or shutting down completely.
You and your partner each complete Ray's proprietary questionnaire, separately. Clients repeatedly tell him this part alone is cathartic — it yields insights and epiphanies before a single session happens.
Then he studies your answers with great care, for days, until he knows exactly how to serve you. That preparation is why he can show up on day one with real solutions and an action plan, instead of spending your first three sessions gathering history.
No wasted time. No fluff.
If that's the two of you, this is the fast path to getting un-stuck in a way that lasts.
Everything runs remotely, or in person in Columbia, Maryland. Start with a conversation — it isn't a therapy session, it's to work out whether this is right.
A real conversation with Ray about what's happening and whether the Relationship Results program is the right fit. Not a therapy session.
The full program: questionnaire, individual sessions, and couples sessions, with everything customised to the two of you.
Everything in Gold, with double the personal time. For couples carrying more history, or who want the deeper work without watching the clock.
This program deliberately does not work with insurance or flex health accounts. That's what allows the work to go where it needs to go, at the pace it needs, without a third party deciding how many sessions you're allowed.
Three areas, worked in this order. Most couples arrive stuck in the first and assume that's the whole problem.
One of the proprietary frameworks clients name unprompted in their reviews — a practical method for what to actually do when a conversation starts going wrong.
“His S.W.I.M and ‘emotional fire alarm’ teaching offer practical methods for diffusing heated moments as they are happening.” — Alex Kelly
How to recognise the moment your body sounds the alarm — before the words come out — and what to do with that half-second of warning.
Taught inside the Relationship Results program, alongside customised exercises and meditations.
A licensed psychotherapist and Sufi master teacher who has been married to his own wife for three decades. Clients describe the approach as refreshing because it gets straight to the heart of the matter.
Every quote below is a real, published review from a couple who worked with Ray — most from Google, several written after they had already been told by someone else that their marriage was beyond saving.
This is the exact sequence, and the order is deliberate. Most couples counseling starts at step three and wonders why progress is slow.
Both of you complete it separately, before anything else. It takes you on a therapeutic journey in its own right, and it gives Ray your story from both sides up front. He studies it for days — and is gifted at seeing behind the words to the real issue underneath.
Your first meeting is deliberately not a couples session. Put two triggered people in a room and progress gets sabotaged by involuntary stress responses, however good everyone's intentions. One-on-one, you feel totally safe and totally heard.
Now we confront what's blocking the flow of care between you: rejection, abandonment, trauma, feeling dismissed or disrespected, control, insecurity, shame. None of it is going anywhere until it's resolved, so we go straight to the core.
Ray gives you the exact tools he has used for decades to help couples stop destructive patterns, rebuild trust, and reconnect emotionally and physically. If you're ready for clarity, peace and real change, start here.
A short, practical guide for the exact moment a conversation turns into a fight — and what to do in the first three minutes to change how the whole thing goes.
Because insurance requires a diagnosis, caps your sessions, and puts a third party in charge of how deep the work is allowed to go. This program does not work with insurance or flex health accounts, and that is a deliberate design choice rather than an oversight.
What you get instead is a fixed investment, a defined number of hours, and no one outside the room deciding when you are finished.
That is how a large share of couples start, and it is not a bad sign. One person usually notices first and the other agrees more out of fairness than enthusiasm. Because the program begins with individual sessions, the reluctant partner is not asked to perform in front of anyone on day one.
Most of the couples who come here have. Several of the reviews on this page are from people who had seen two or three therapists first, and one was told by a previous therapist that the relationship was unfixable.
Bring what happened last time to the consultation. It tells Ray a great deal about what needs to be done differently.
Yes. The program is designed to run remotely and serves couples throughout the United States. In-person sessions are available in Columbia, Maryland and across the surrounding area if you would prefer them.
It blends all three: licensed psychotherapy, coaching, and energy work, in a highly personalised way. Ray is both a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and a Sufi master teacher, and the program draws on both.
If a purely clinical, insurance-billed course of therapy is what you are looking for, this is not it, and Ray will say so on the consultation.
It is a conversation about your situation and whether the Relationship Results program is right for you. Not a therapy session, and not a sales call with someone other than Ray. It can be in person or by video.
Articles and short videos from Ray on communication, consciousness and connection — how to stop the fight before it starts, and what to do when the tools don't seem to be working.
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